Why Female Coaches Need To Be Attractive!
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The truth is ALL coaches need to be attractive!
"Attractive", at its core, includes the concept of drawing toward or wanting to be near.
We probably all know someone who is gorgeous on the outside but is not someone we really want to spend time with. On the other hand, there are people in our lives that make us feel valuable, loved, and interesting. We want to spend time with them. We are attracted to them.
Who is like that for you? You know what I mean? You are "attracted" to them because they care about you. They ask you questions about your life, your interests, your thoughts, your nexts...
My brother-in-law, Mark, comes to mind for me. He is a successful businessman and could spend his time talking about himself or recent accomplishments, but for as long as I have known him he has always made the conversation be about the other person. He seems truly intrigued by how others think and live. (That's probably at least one key to his success.)
1 Peter 3: 4 talks about how "beauty should come from within you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never be destroyed and is very precious to God."
Did you catch that? a gentle and quiet spirit
Reading that recently sent me on a quest to think about being attractive in a whole new light.
One pillar of coaching is active listening. That skill fits so well with the scriptural definition of beauty being "a gentle and quiet spirit."
Let's break that down for a minute.
"Gentleness is strength under control", so says my pastor, Matt Mylin. (You can catch that message here if you want, it was part of our "What are you known for ?" series.) That definition really stuck with me. And now months later I am impacted by it.
Coupling "strength under control" - gentleness - with the other marker of beauty - quietness - could play out many ways in a true coaching conversation including:
- Listening more than speaking.
- Not dominating the relationship, or conversation, by telling others what to do.
- Being curious.
- Believing God is always offering a plan and the other person can learn to hear from Him.
So, who's attracted to you?
Who sees you as "gentle and quiet"?
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