What If There Is An Angle You Aren't Clearly Seeing? (How Eric's Question Changed My Perspective)
In case you missed the memo I recently completed the first draft of a dating book I have been working on for about ten years! Before Bridges Coaching I worked at a Bible College as a dean and learned lots of things about how to - and how not to- date well!
I started the book in that era and then launched Bridges coaching so the book was put on the back burner for a while, then we had a surprise chapter and moved to PA where we both work at a wonderful church and Bridges became what I did on the side, so the book was my side side - if there is such a thing.
So here's the perspective-shifting thought.
My husband, Eric, was talking about my completing the draft and he said "Actually, I'm glad it took you this long. You have been really good with having boundaries about how much you work. What if you had pushed yourself to get it done sooner and that really cost our family or our marriage?"
WOW!
He was right!
I felt immediate relief for all the guilt I had felt with the draft taking so long.
What IF I had pushed? Yikes!
So, my question to you is this: Is there something you are feeling guilty about not putting time toward that really is NOT supposed to be on the front burner right now?
Don't let the enemy suck energy out of you by distracting you with feelings of condemnation!
On the other hand: Is there something you ARE supposed to be putting more energy toward in this season? What is holding you back?
Good coaching can help you answer either, or both, of these questions.
Proverbs 20:5 says, "People's thoughts can be like a deep well, but someone with understanding can find the wisdom there."
Want more:
Traction: a self-coaching workbook by Bridges Coaching - use this on your own or go through it with a friend, partner, or coach!
But really - what's holding you back?
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